What is Grief? It’s Role in the Context of Abortion.

“I lost a huge part of myself through this journey and you have shown me life is not over, that I can and will do great things in my life” - After Abortion Support Client 

Grief is a normal response to loss, commonly associated with death but also felt after losing a job, a friendship, health, dreams, experiencing miscarriage, or the end of a relationship. You can also experience grief after having an abortion. A common view of grief is like living two lives: one where you pretend everything is okay, and another where your heart silently screams in pain. Grief is a mix of conflicting emotions that one experiences due to a change or end in familiar patterns. Grief is a complex process that extends beyond mere sadness.

Each person's experience of grief is deeply personal and multifaceted—touching on cognitive, emotional, physical, relational, and spiritual dimensions. There's no set timeline for healing, nor a single correct way to grieve. While stages like denial, anger, depression, and acceptance are recognized, they don't unfold neatly or in sequence.

Grief isn't about overcoming pain in stages; it's about expanding our capacity to hold the weight of loss.

The grief or loss one may experience after an unwanted pregnancy or abortion are complex and will be different for each person. Many who experience abortion find it challenging to share their emotions with loved ones. Despite the legality of abortion and its recognition as a woman's right, the grief that can follow is not widely acknowledged or discussed. This can leave individuals feeling isolated in their emotional processing. But you don't have to face this journey alone. Your feelings are valid, and seeking support is a courageous step toward healing.

At First Place Options, we understand the complexities of post-abortion grief. Our goal is to provide you with a safe and supportive environment where you can explore your emotions without judgment. We are here to listen, to offer encouragement, and to equip you with positive strategies to cope with your thoughts and feelings.

- FPO Team